Proudly antisemitic/islamophobic/racist

involved in pro-ship/anti-ship discourse AT ALL, IN ANY WAY.

believe transandrophobia/treiphobia/oppression that specifically targets trans men and transmasculine people does not exist, doesn’t need a specific word, or should use a “different” word; use “transandrophobia truther” as a derogatory term

anti-kink of any kind, in any way (including ageplay (it’s none of your business what consenting adults do in their own time), and including “no kink at pride” types)

radfem/terf/swerf, ‘gender critical’, nonbinary skeptic

truscum/transmed/radmed

map/nomap/pear/”pro-contact”

exclusionist of any kind

anti-bi/pan/poly/omni or believe any of these labels are inherently transphobic or biphobic

aspec exclusionist of any kind, including “aro is under the asexual umbrella” types

anti-mogai

“Queer is a slur” crowd

Anti-neopronouns / pronoun policer (i.e., believe men can’t use she/her and women can’t use he/him)

against mspec lesbians/gays

against lesboys

believe femme and butch are lesbian/woman exclusive terms

anti-self-dx/pro autism speaks

anti-kin

cringe/flop/traumacore blogs

Short version: Don’t interact with me if you’re active in ‘shipcourse’. At all, in any way, in any form.

Fiction affects reality but not to the extent many of the people on the internet are desperate to justify; if a work of fiction leads to a person committing an illegal act like assault or harassment, the groundwork was already laid. The fiction may have been a catalyst, but the cause was already within the individual. You sound like a conservative blaming violent videogames for racist white men committing school shootings.

Dark, immoral, disgusting, any other adjective you can think of; all those subjects deserve to be explored through fiction. It is unequivocally the safest way to engage with them. And yes, I’m talking about things like incest, rape, and pedophilia. But please read the whole thing before you pass judgement on me.

Thought crime is not real. If you believe even an interest in engaging with the worse parts of humanity through fiction is an immediate indicator of someone’s entire moral character, you need to do some serious self-reflection and hopefully deprogramming. It’s not an enjoyable thing to constantly demand yourself and others to self-censor, even inside your own mind, where nobody else could possibly see.

Regardless, fiction that explores these subjects MUST be properly tagged and filtered. All content on the internet should follow these rules, really, but when engaging with subjects that are so deeply triggering to many (often including those that create the fiction), it is a moral obligation to make sure it is easy to avoid when needed.

Proudly shoving your weird grimdark incest fantasy stuff in others’ faces by not tagging it or tagging it improperly is inexcusable. Grow up.

Survivors are allowed to process their trauma any way that works for them that isn’t harming them further. Hell, nobody can stop them processing it in a way that is harming them further, really; but insisting on a puritanical internet where no exploration of the repulsive parts of humanity is allowed ever will only result in a worse world for all of us.

‘Glorification’ of these darker subjects is more complicated, and almost always requires a swathe of context to be accurately understood. The novel Lolita is a good example. It is written from the perspective of Humbert Humbert, a pedophile who molests his stepdaughter; at first glance, it seems to be a blatant glorification (and defence) of the behaviour. On closer inspection, it becomes clear that it is no glorification, and in fact, a much more chilling look into how the minds of pedophiles work to justify their actions, even against the most obvious parts of reality – even Humbert acknowledges the suffering he causes his stepdaughter in the novel. It also explores how children can respond to grooming, and how insidiously it can affect them. But the novel requires that closer inspection to see its true context, and that is unfortunately the case with almost all explorations of things like this.

It is also a must to keep in mind the three-act structure; glorification is not glorification if more than 60% of the fiction explores the impact, repercussions, and damage of something. It is also not necessarily glorification if the perspective character thinks it's perfectly fine.

In light of that, I believe that unless creators are willing to share the complete context of works that are outwardly mostly glorification, it should not be shared, for their own sakes as well as others. No matter your intentions, unless you are willing to provide context for things like this, it will attract those who are looking for no-strings glorification to justify themselves and find victims. Though I am willing to reconsider this point if anyone would like to discuss it.

Harassing people and sending them death threats on the internet over perceived moral failings (thinking about, engaging with, and/or creating dark/upsetting media) is needless and cruel. Harassing people at all is needless and cruel. Harassment is never, ever justified. In the case of an innocent target, you have now ruined their life. Children – Children! Fucking children! – have been driven to suicide over being supposedly ‘pro-ship’. In the case of a guilty target, they are not going to change, and you’re just giving them the attention they want.

Harassment includes writing public callout posts.

“Pro-ship” and “anti-ship” labels are useless. I have seen people with the exact same opinions use the opposite labels. I don’t use them for this reason.

Harassment is the only thing I have seen the “anti-ship” community actually do. No education about how to spot grooming behaviour, no advice on critical thinking, no advocating for and/or pursuing better tagging systems and better filtering, just harassment.

I am not excusing those in the “pro-ship” community that use the label to hide their intentions to harm others or the ‘creators’ who want to depict endless rape scenes for their own gratification.

The ‘factions’ on both sides of this argument are equally repugnant and seem to have no capacity for nuance.

Given all of the above, make what conclusions about me you will. However, if you attempt to label me ‘pro’ or ‘anti’ ship I will attack you. That’s a threat and a promise.

Everyone is equal but different. We deserve our needs met based on where and how we live.

Racism is alive and well and faced differently by every person of colour. It intersects with gender, sexuality, disability, and location; it must be responded to, in turn, by considering those intersections. Particularly of location; the struggles of, say, Black trans people in the USA are vastly different to the struggles of Black trans people in Brazil.

White supremacy harms everyone, explicitly including white people – queer, trans, disabled, intersex white people face different problems than racism from white supremacy, but they are hardly lauded within it. White supremacy requires any deviation from the abled, neurotypical, cisgender, conformant ideal to be stamped out.

Transracial is a term that has been violently appropriated for racist ends from fostered and adopted children who grew up in households that didn’t match their race and culture (i.e. a Black child who grew up with white/mixed-white adoptive family). Unfortunately, its rise in popularity is almost always the racist version.

Anti-theism is religious discrimination. I don’t care if you have religious trauma.

Antisemitism is insidious and unfortunately, everywhere. Even blatant antisemitism can be hard to spot from how deeply it has been baked into society.

Islamophobia has no excuse; tarring any group with one brush because of the actions of a few only damages the most vulnerable.

The labels “map”, “nomap”, and “pear”, when used proudly, are just shorthand for “pedophile”. I’m not interested in interacting with people like that.

POCD and pedophilic intrusive thoughts are not the same as voluntary, intended, and planned pedophilia. People with POCD and those with similar intrusive thoughts deserve support, understanding, and acknowledgement without harassment.

That being said, I am staunchly anti-contact for illegal paraphilias of any kind, and this is an opinion you cannot and will not change.

Trans men and transmasculine people deserve language to talk about the oppression they face specifically for being transgender and men/masculine. Trans men and transmasculine people deserve to talk about the oppression they face specifically for being transgender and men/masculine without being harassed and accused of transmisogyny or exorsexism. Here's a good post that clarifies a lot of the differences between transmisogyny, transandrophobia, and transphobia faced by both transfeminine and transmasculine people. (Slight possible eyestrain warning for the theme.)

Transgender and Intersex issues are intertwined, but distinct. Intersex issues should be treated with the same respect and solidarity as our own. If you wouldn’t tell a trans person that you wish you had a feature of theirs they’re actively trying to get rid of and dysphoric about to make yourself more feminine or masculine, don’t tell an intersex person that you wish you were born intersex so that you could be ‘physically nonbinary’. Yes, I’ve actually seen that. It looks innocent but it’s a blinding beacon that shows you have no understanding or care of intersex issues (genital mutilation, forced HRT, forced cosmetic surgeries, forced prescriptions, and so much more).

You don’t need dysphoria, HRT, or surgeries of any kind to be transgender (or nonbinary!)

Queer people know their identities better than you do. Neopronouns, xenogenders, and contradictory identities are nobody’s business but the person that identifies with them.

Neopronouns in particular are cool and swag. However, given that they’re a facet of identity that has the potential to affect others: if they’re hard for you to get, handling it respectfully on an individual basis will get you much further than complaining about how it fries your brain. (Speaking from experience on this one.)

Pronouns do not equal gender. Women can use he/him, men can use she/her. Nonbinary people do not have to use they/them at all to be nonbinary. Nonbinary people can be he/him or she/her exclusively and they’re no less nonbinary.

Femme and Butch are not lesbian- or woman-exclusive terms. They were created in ball culture by queer people of colour of all genders and sexualities. To claim they are exclusive is ahistorical and perpetuates the lesbian separatist ideology that ripped our community to shreds. Here's a website with a sourced essay and FAQ covering the history of Butch and Femme as terms within the queer community.

Queer is a slur. So is LITERALLY EVERYTHING we ever refer to ourselves with. Gay is a slur, lesbian is a slur, faggot, dyke, pansy, tranny. All slurs. Anything we call ourselves will inevitably become a slur. It’s respectability politics to insist we ditch queer because of its status as a slur and the movement is only pushed by TERFs and exclusionists because queer is such a broad umbrella.

Slur discourse is mind-bendingly idiotic. It is not “who can use this word” but “why are you using this word/why do you want to use this word” and “who are you calling this word and do they consent to it”. Queer slurs are not an analogue of racial slurs; you can’t have a queer equivalent to the N-word where it’s obvious why a specific group of people shouldn’t be saying it at all (white people). Faggot in the mouth of a gay man that takes pride in being unpalatable to cishet society could not be more different than faggot in the mouth of a sneering homophobic father. Dyke in the mouth of an older lesbian cannot even be compared to dyke in the mouth of someone catcalling from a car. The obsession with who can say what has led us into frothing idiocy, to the point that when a cisgender man read out the title of a podcast that contained the word dyke, he was vilified for saying dyke. When he was promoting a podcast created by dyke lesbians. You see the stupidity.

It is none of your business what two fully consenting adults do in their own private spaces on their own time. Kink is not morally wrong and is frequently the safest way to engage with things that would otherwise be questionable, due to the strict consent rules and extensive communication established.

If you are a minor, you should not be getting involved with ‘kink discourse’ AT ALL. No exceptions. It’s none of your business and you should NOT be broadcasting that you’re willing to talk about niche sexual topics on the internet.

I repeat: Kink has no inherent moral weight. Yes, even ageplay. Yes, even “rapeplay”, which is a horrifically disrespectful term for an established and rigorously managed facet of many Kink communities – Consensual Non-Consent, or CNC. Note the emphasis on consensual.

Kink can be used for malicious ends, but much like all sexual coercion and violence, it is less about the sexual aspect and much more about the domination and power aspect. Those with cruel intentions will always use whatever allows them to damage their victims the most. This is not a reflection of kink as a whole but on the individual that would exploit an entire community to further their personal agendas.

Kink belongs at pride. The kink community and the queer community have always been intertwined; one of the first pride flags ever created was the leather pride flag. The kink community has faced the same oppression and suppression that we have, and they have stood with us loyally in our mutual times of need. The kink community is why we survived the AIDS crisis in the first place, and now you would deny them their rightful place at our side because the way they dress makes you uncomfortable and there’s the implication that they’re sexually active? The same way we have been denied dressing the way makes us happiest and to be sexually involved with our partners?

There are plenty of family-friendly pride events already, if you're about to clutch at your pearls and beg me to think of the children. No one is saying we can't have those or that they shouldn't exist. We can think of the children, yes, but conversely, the children need to know our history.

Asexual spectrum and aromantic spectrum people are queer. Yes, even if they’re heterosexual or heteroromantic and cisgender. A good rule of thumb is that if you have to explain your existence to cishet people, you’re most likely queer.

Bisexual, pansexual, polysexual, and omnisexual have definitions that broadly overlap. The distinction matters to some people and isn’t harming anyone else. Bisexuality is not transphobic – the purple in the flag is explicitly there to represent ‘other gender attraction’ – and pansexuality is not inherently more inclusive, without preference, or biphobic. Nonetheless, there are bigots on both sides, but it’s just mudslinging to have a target for the sake of it. I promise you no one actually cares about the specific definition of your sexuality unless they’re interested in you, and they shouldn’t care otherwise anyway.

Exclusionism of any kind is a disease. It is far more beneficial to show kindness to those that don’t need it than to deny it of those that do.

‘MOGAI’ and ‘LIOM’ identities are just as valid as more commonly known labels. You don’t have to understand why someone calls themself a stargender catfluid demixip to let them exist in peace. If you don’t understand, you don’t have to, but just move on instead of demanding a justification. It’ll save you so much mental real estate.

“Mspec lesbians” and “Mspec gays” are new terms, but the experience has been described for decades. “Mspec”/bisexual lesbians were violently forced out of lesbian spaces at the start of the lesbian separatism and political lesbian movements and have struggled to rebuild their community ever since; it is perpetuating biphobia and undermining the entire queer community to claim that the experiences are inherently usurping, invading, ahistorical, damaging, lesbophobic, or homophobic. (Does that rhetoric remind you of any bigotry-crazed language frequently used about another minority group?) Here's a post detailing the history of women identifying as both bisexual and lesbian. Here's another post detailing how bisexual women were pushed out of lesbian spaces by an explicitly racist and transphobic movement.

See above, but for “Lesboys”, lesbian men, and male lesbians. Here's a website that talks about the reasons someone may be a lesbian and male. I recommend the historical sources section.

Radical feminism has become irredeemable. It holds no space for anyone who is deemed an unacceptable woman (usually disabled, Black, and/or neurodivergent women, if we forgo the almost ubiquity of transmisogyny) and actively discourages the solidarity with marginalised men that is needed in order to accomplish real equality. In many cases it has even gone so far as to loop back around into (non-structural, don't misinterpret me) misandry and has damaged countless men of colour, disabled men, transgender men, mentally ill men, and neurodivergent men. Intersectional feminism is where it’s at.

Men are just as important to feminism as women are. Men deserve compassion and understanding just as much as women. Men and women aren’t alien races to each other; humans of any and every gender are more alike than they could ever be different. Don’t mistake this for me saying cisgender, heterosexual, powerful men shouldn’t face consequences. All men deserve the opportunity to learn and grow from their mistakes, and repercussions are a vital part of that for anyone.

TERFs target all trans people, not just trans women. Trans women are the invading evil; trans men are the corrupted exodus that must be saved; nonbinary people are the invading evil or the corrupted exodus that must be saved depending on their AGAB. To claim otherwise leaves so many people stranded without support, and frankly, means wasting time convincing people they aren't actually affected by the oppression of a group that wants nothing more than to stamp all trans people out no matter the cost. More time spent arguing about who TERFs care about is less time spent helping the trans women you claim to care so much about.

Self-diagnosis is an extremely valuable thing for neurodivergent and disabled people. Neurodivergence diagnoses are extremely hard to get past childhood, and many of them change rapidly into adulthood as new responsibilities and situations arise. Denying people the chance to even look for relief in a self-diagnosis that may end up slightly off the mark is blatant ableism and classism, even and especially if you are formally diagnosed.

Autism speaks fucking sucks. Check out the Autistic Self Advocacy Network (ASAN) instead.

It is not my place to participate in system discourse. However, I prefer to believe people when they talk about their own experiences, and as a result of that I tend to stick around the pro-endogenic crowd. DID and OSDD diagnoses being a nightmare to get aside, again, it is always better to show kindness to those with no need for it than to deny kindness to those who need it desperately.

Transabled is a complicated subject. Many uses of the label are blatantly ableist and fetishizing, but the experience exists in several people in the form of Body Identity Integrity Disorder, or BIID. As someone who walks a wobbly line between abled and disabled but has not been deeply involved in disabled culture, it is not a subject I am qualified to discuss.

“Transautistic”, however, is just plain ableism, infantilising, and fetishistic. The label has been reclaimed and redefined by some transgender autistic people, but given its origins, I proceed with caution anyway and advise you to do the same.

Kin For Fun/KFF is harmless in its literal definition. Who gives a fuck if the main reason someone identifies as something nonhuman is to have fun?

The subject is incredibly nuanced and requires a detailed look by everyone involved, especially in the internet climate we are currently weathering - its hyperfocus on designating a group as the Bad Wrong Ones obliterates discussion, and this is a place where that cannot happen.

The real issue is that the 'movement' has been hijacked (likely even created) by folks using it as nothing more than an excuse for ableist, xenophobic harassment.

Cleverly, they have also roped in many innocents, luring those who have biases to unlearn - like a paralysing fear of being seen as uncool, or a fear of deserving of the harassment they have seen heaped upon alterhumans by folks both in and out of their community - and warped their cautious attempts at learning more about themselves into a transmedicalist-style absolutist worldview that requires them to not only preserve their identities as only ever for fun (barring themselves from realising more deeply held identities), but to repeatedly throw those 'fake, deluded, stupid' otherkin under the bus. The biases that they came to unlearn are warped and turned into a further weapon by a small group of people to further their anti-alterhuman agenda.

Those innocents become perpetrators, most if not all completely unaware that they have had their curiosity about their identity turned into a weapon of exclusion, and fully believing themselves to be holding the 'correct' opinions

Others still have the history of alterhumanity hidden from them in order to make them better harassers, and yet more have that history hidden from them to preserve their innocence so that they can be used as unwitting meat shields for the actual perpetrators. When attacked, their lack of understanding is seen by angry alterhumans as nothing more than dumb insolence, and they perceive the confrontation as an unprovoked volley of harassment for just doing their own thing.

The cycle repeats, continuously obscuring the actual problem.

Like many other movements, the righteous anger of a younger demographic is funnelled into a cruel, bigoted cause. Righteous anger feels good. Of course they would be sucked in by the opportunity to call another group bad, wrong, and irredeemable. It's addictive.

Regardless of the cause, the harassment doled out to alterhumans by those flying the banner of the KFF community cannot be excused or brushed off. Treating alterhumanity as another box of identity that cannot be experienced in any way other than the one set by a few people is just rehashed ableism and schoolyard bullying. It is emphatically no different than a clique of mean girls telling you not to go near them because you're uncool.

On the internet, you cannot use shorthand. It will be misinterpreted for someone else’s gain. Don’t talk about how much you hate "KFFers" - Talk about the ableism, the xenophobia, the entitlement to believing you can dictate the validity or morality of someone else's identity.

Again: IDing as alterhuman for fun or comfort is morally neutral. There is nothing wrong with the actual act of IDing as something nonhuman to enjoy yourself. The problem is the ableism.

Kin gatekeeping sucks. Grilling sucks. Rigorously vetting every potential community member and turning them away when they don’t meet even one requirement and relying on that as the main method of moderation will inevitably lead to collapse. It is infinitely more productive to welcome those questioning and have robust moderation within the community than to do anything in the point above. There is no one-size-fits-all way of deciding who is allowed in a space or not based on their identity. Watching behaviour is a much, much easier task.

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